Tuesday, November 9, 2010

The Language of Women

                                                Why Men don't seem to understand:

Women and Men seem to go about being socially acceptable in different ways.  So in many cases it's hard to understand one another. When a Man begins a conversation he is almost always ensuring, and placing his status. Testosterone is high in many "Manly" conversations. Men in most cases are very straight to the point, and at many times competing with one another to see who's the baddest, smartest, toughest ect... I know we've all heard the expression "Boys will be boys."

Although I will say this is not true in all cases. There is always exceptions.

Women are more of a social networking system. From personal experience and from others experiences, women find it much easier to start conversations, then it is for men to begin a conversation.  It seems in our social code  Women feed off of others energy and sharing our own. You'd be lying if you said you didn't get excited or curious when your hear juicy gossip. We all do and we are all guilty women and men of spreading it. Women are always reliable to let you know how they feel or express, expectations, disappointments, and there emotions, basically what men find so hard to express women find either easy or at least easier. When we see a man carrying these traits of expression, neediness, and emotions, it many cases we refer him as "gay" or well, as a women as bad as that sounds.  

Best friends for women mean intimate talks, "girls night" which almost always consists of alcohol, music, and Gossip. 

 Gossip is a huge part of our society for both Women and Men. You can try and say how different you are and how you and your girls don't gossip.... But I'm sorry we all do

Definitions of gossip on the Web:

  • chitchat: light informal conversation for social occasions
  • dish the dirt: wag one's tongue; speak about others and reveal secrets or intimacies; "She won't dish the dirt"
  • a report (often malicious) about the behavior of other people; "the divorce caused much gossip"
  • chew the fat: talk socially without exchanging too much information; "the men were sitting in the cafe and shooting the breeze"
  • a person given to gossiping and divulging personal information about others

Although Women gossip a lot  men are not innocent of it although some may do it differently then others. Men you are just as guilty. When you call a friend and brag about "hooking up" with this girl or that, or when you pass along something you've heard. If you heard 2nd hand there is a very big chance what you've heard and are now passing along is either a stretch from actual facts or a jump to a fictional story that was based on a true one. {If you catch my drift} We all do it.

Although for women gossiping may actually be what the doctor ordered studies have shown, that in women a hormone that reduces stress, anxiety, and overall makes women happier is let out in there body when they are social networking "Gossiping" The hormone is called Progesterone, and is said if the body healthily releases it that the women are prone to a longer healthier and happier lives.


Saturday, July 17, 2010

Orginized & Color coordinated

The Dream Closets

The perfect home for shoes to rest, purses lay next to the perfect dress. accesories to show their glit and glam, it's true in the end only I will give a damn. but this isnt for you its for my secret escape. and only my dresses, shirts, skirts, pants, capris, khakis, jumpsuits,  can relate. A love seat I'll Lay, & gloat at my aray. -my dream closet
Head bands and wraps are back!

Popular since the 20's they've made there comeback for the new generation with our new age twist

Thursday, July 8, 2010

A Chance to Live

The chance to move on...

When your given the opportunity to move to the next phase in your life i would say grab it in a heart beat. Leave your comfort zone that includes old loves and friendships if there real your not really leaving them at all just growing and making new ones along the way.

A chance to go somewhere, or take a job, or attend a school is one in a life time your not really living if you stay in one place that is your comfort zone.

The color of life is your decision you must splash and paint your own colors to your canvas dont let any one hold you back and keep your life dull.

To live is to hold nothing back and give everything your all.

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Defining Love and Being In Love(There is a difference)

Love, what a global word everyone knows what love is. Even a 2 year old can define love it may not be the same love as  a 20 year old but love is love through and through. I'm going to attempt and define the difference between love and being in love. There is no right and wrong answer just my private interpretation.

Love what a wonderful thing a self medicated drug, Love can pick a person up form the lowest of the low and take them to the highest point in there lives. But the dark side of love  can illuminate itself and pull you right back down, a broken heart is never easy to mend. I don't know if everyone has experienced being in love, but what I can say it's one of the many wonders of our society today and has been from the beginning of time. Through out history we have had our share of love stories "Romeo & Juliet" Cleopatra & Marc Antony, Christian & Isolde. Love brings two people together and connects them some how despite their flaws and despite anyone else. True love does not include anyone but the two love birds. What makes people fall in love i cannot say its different for everyone. But I'm not here to discuss how we fall in love but merely the difference between having  Love and Being in love..

Being in Love and having Love for another can be misinterpreted, couples can stay together with false pretenses confusing Love for one another and being in Love with one another. I to have fallen victim to this and cannot say I have completely pulled through but I do acknowledge the difference. Love is meant to make both people happy, an all time high, something that never gets old. Of course we all fight in relationships, I would be scared for you if you didn't, but love is when you can get past it and move for the future, when you can shake small things off and forgive your spouse. Being in love is always brand new no matter how long you have been in this relationship. Love is an excitement, butterflies in your stomach. As I've spoken about in my Pros & Cons of relationships Love does and will always become a comfort zone. Who wouldn't want to stay with a person they've been with for so long, that person knows every thing they like, certain habits they've come to accept, and it's always great to have a sex partner to feel comfortable with. But don't confuse the comfort for being in love, Love in some couples does die and that doesn't mean you cant have love for that person but if its not meant to be, it's just not meant to be, holding on to a dead relationship can only affect you negatively.